I used to think I was the problem.

For years, I’d go to social events—drinks, networking, the usual—and I’d feel completely drained within twenty minutes. I’d look around, and everyone else seemed to be having a lovely time, chatting away about the weather or the football. I’d be standing there, nodding politely, whilst internally screaming.

For a long time, I thought this meant I was “antisocial” or “difficult.” But I’ve come to a different realisation. The problem wasn’t the people or me—it was simply incompatibility. Some connections feel effortless, natural. Others feel like hard work, like you’re both trying to speak but neither of you can quite hear what the other is saying.

I realised that social friction isn’t about one person being “better” or more “interesting” than the other. It’s a matter of frequency mismatch. It’s like trying to tune a radio: if you’re broadcasting on FM and I’m listening on AM, all we’re going to get is static. It’s not a moral failing; it’s just physics.

The trouble is, the modern world is built entirely for one frequency. And if you don’t naturally operate on that frequency, the system has a simple solution: change yourself to fit.

Curate a “personal brand”. Upload the perfect photo. Perform a polished version of yourself. It’s exhausting. It feels rather like auditioning for a play you never wanted to be in, except the audition never actually ends.

I didn’t want to audition. I just wanted a proper conversation.

I wanted to skip the part where we pretend to be perfect and get straight to the part where we admit we’re actually a bit weird, or worried, or obsessed with something obscure.

So, I built Soulchronise.

I didn’t build it to start a revolution. I built it because I kept watching people—perfectly lovely, interesting people—shrink themselves down to fit into a little box. Not because they wanted to, but because the system demanded it. Upload the right photo. Say the right things. Don’t be too much. Don’t be too little. And somewhere in all that careful curation, the actual person gets lost.

But I didn’t want to just complain about the problem. I wanted to understand it. So I looked at the psychology of connection—attachment theory, dyadic coping, and communication regulation. And what I found was oddly reassuring: resonance isn’t random magic. It’s structural. It’s about how we process the world.

Which meant it could be mapped. And if it could be mapped, it could be matched.

The thing is, everyone has something real to offer—some way they see the world, some pattern of thinking, some version of themselves that only comes out when they feel safe. But you can’t show that in a photo. And you certainly can’t show it when you’re performing.

Soulchronise is about creating a space where you can show up as you are. Where the photos and the careful curation and the pressure to be “impressive” are stripped away, so what’s left is just you. The real you. The version that experiences the world in your particular way, needs what you need, fears what you fear.

We match people based on how they actually process the world. Do you need debate or harmony? Do you process stress by talking or by hiding? Do you value the silence or fear it?

It’s not about finding “perfect” people. It’s about finding resonant people. No photos. No performance. Just a quiet space to find the people on your frequency.